Anxiety & Self Esteemcounselling and therapy for anxiety in torontoLooking for therapy or counselling for anxiety, social phobia or panic attacks in Toronto? counselling and therapy for low self-esteemLooking for low self-esteem counselling or for a self-esteem therapist in Toronto? If you grew up in a family, community or society where your feelings, needs and opinions were not valued, you may have understandably developed low self-esteem. In this society, we are valued in terms of credentials, skin colour, income etc. - in terms of our ability to produce and to consume. You may have received or taken messages that now negatively influence your core beliefs, self-talk and ways of interacting with others. If you do not like yourself, you will not assert yourself, make requests or healthy decisions, or even follow your dreams. Instead, to avoid confrontation and to please or impress, you may defer to what others want. People who have a low self-esteem tend to stay in relationships and jobs that reflect and reinforce their low self-worth. So here's the crux of it: Self-esteem can be intrinsic or extrinsic. If you were loved unconditionally growing up, you likely feel accepting of yourself as you are - imperfections and all. That is, you love yourself regardless of the ways others behave and regardless of your failures. Unlike someone with extrinsic self-esteem, you do not need the approval or praise of authority figures to feel good about yourself. Neither do you need external measures of success - such as a fancy job titile, high grades, a model's body etc.. In my practice, I help clients strengthen their intrinsic self-worth. Perhaps you grew up in a dysfunctional family and depend on external forms of validation to feel good about yourself. Would you like to work on feeling more at ease with who you are? If so, please get in touch with me. I would love to work with you. anxiety counselling and low self-esteem therapyAnxiety counselling and psychotherapy for self-esteem can make a difference.
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Get in touch. I would be happy to answer your questions or hear about your hopes for therapy. help for anxiety and low self-esteemThe following are adaptations of comments made by clients: |
generalized anxiety and panic attacks: "For as long as I can remember, I have been a worrier. I always compare myself to other people and just can’t seem to relax. My nervousness comes and goes. When it’s been really bad, I’ve gotten panic attacks. My heart pounds and my thoughts race, I feel nauseous …… or like I might pass out. Worst of all, I worry other people notice. And that makes me even more anxious."
social anxiety and panic attacks: "I dread every time the phone rings. I just sit there like a scared rabbit, ignoring it. Since I worry about people judging me, I only answer the phone if it’s family or a close friend. I hate the phone. If I have to make a call, it usually takes me days or weeks. And right before, I shake, feel sick and my hands sweat. Then, on the call, my voice goes all weird and shaky. I nearly have a panic attack just leaving a message for someone I don't know!" ————————— anxiety and low self-esteem: "I couldn’t take another day of arguing. I couldn't trust JP and I had never been more anxious. JP wasn’t interested in couples counselling, so I booked a therapy session - just for me. In therapy, I realized I was trying so hard to change JP's drinking, that I forgot about myself. I made connections between my life with JP and my childhood, where I was often left to deal with problems alone. I began to see and accept that the only person I could change was me. So I focused more on what I needed and less on changing JP: Instead of going out with JP to make sure he didn’t drink too much, I started going out with my friends. If JP didn't come home at night, I turned my phone off and went to bed. Before, I would have called him or waited up for him. Tired of being in a relationship with someone who wasn’t there for me, I moved out on my own. Two years later, I started dating TM. Our relationship was healthy and I was much happier." generalized anxiety: "I was always a people pleaser. I had terrible sleeping problems. There were times I'd wake up in the middle of the night. I usually imagined things were worse than they really were: When I got a stomach ache, I'd think it was an ulcer. At work, I’d stay late trying to do a perfect job. I found it hard to concentrate. I would read the same thing over and over and little sunk in. When my problems were at their worst, I'd call in sick at work and feel awful about it. Then I worried that I'd lose my job. My life was miserable and I felt depressed until I went for counselling." stress and low self-esteem: "I tried something I normally wouldn’t do. Therapy. And the reason was simple. Life was getting stressful. The job, my partner, the constant responsibilities and few breaks. I needed someone to listen to me - really listen. During our counselling sessions, I started to realize many things: It was clear my relationship with my partner wasn't going well. Problem is s/he had no clue. At first I got angry, we fought, but nothing changed. Feeling depressed, I looked elsewhere. My affair became an agonizing secret. I would have left my partner, but I just couldn't leave our three-year-old who is the love of my life. So far, talking has helped me realize what’s going on. And that has helped me face decisions I need to make. My therapist is a great listener. She is down-to-earth and made it easy for me to open up." disclaimer:Information on this website and web page is intended to be informational and should not be used to diagnose anyone or oneself. Further, the information provided does not constitute medical or psychological advice and should not be used as a substitute for therapeutic work with an appropriate mental health professional. If information is misinterpreted and/or consequences result from use of information on this website, this website/ its owner is not responsible. This website does not endorse any other website linked to it. |
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